Like every other being, I am a creator. To create, I require space–the space of a pause to breathe in the middle of a busy day, the space of time and a quiet corner to sink into meditation, the space to honor the dignity that I deserve and that every being whom I encounter in my day deserves.
There was a time not too long ago when I would have occupied all of these spaces with flurried multi-tasking and the leaking, frantic energy of rushing from one ‘fire’ in the belief that I had to be present to put out another. In fact, I was not really present for anything I was doing. I was reacting to circumstances as they arose rather than allowing enough space in my life between reactions to be able to breathe, become inspired, imagine, and create. My hectic lifestyle and work habits were actually quite counter-productive and often resulted in rushed encounters with my fellow human beings in which I extended neither to myself nor to my friend, colleague, whomever the dignity we both deserved.
Now, I make a daily Mindfulness practice (some days more successfully than others) of giving myself and others more space with the aim of granting us all more dignity. I just allow. I allow myself space for emotions to settle in difficult conversations before I speak with the conscious aim of communicating simply, honestly, and clearly. I allow others the space to be, feel, and do without believing that I need to change them or myself on the basis of their perceptions. I aim to be calm, focused, and present for every word spoken, for every endeavor undertaken by just allowing each moment to unfold. I aim to suppress speaking when what is probably needed is the allowance of a little space that silence can create. The more I hold this intention of “just allowing” in my awareness, the more allowing things to be in a pause or state of rest happens. What we focus upon we manifest.
More silence, more space, more dignity. My new mantra.