The Words We Say Without Thinking, Part II


Many of us had some kind of negative childhood experience which taught us that being noticed by others is a dangerous thing.  I can think of so many moments in my own childhood in which being called upon in class resulted in being washed over with embarrassment.  So, the subconscious mind will often operate in very sneaky ways to prevent encountering the danger of being noticed. Feeling vital, optimally healthful, and  full of creativity and energy are sure ways to be noticed, because the person who is vibrant attracts attention through her presence, words, and actions.  Negative affirmations provide  opportunities for the subconscious mind to sap one of vitality that is notice-able.

One such negative affirmation that  I often hear and used to say quite often myself without thinking is “I’m sick and tired… “  This is an unfortunately effective affirmation which only serves to sap one of energy, vitality, and confidence.  While the conscious mind may have an external target in mind (“I’m sick and tired of my job,” for example), the subconscious mind records and affirms exactly what  is being said– “I AM sick and tired.”  What a terrible thing to say to and about one’s self:  because neurons that fire together wire together, repeated affirmations like this persuade the mind and body that one actually feels sick and tired.

The first step to eliminating negative affirmations is to awaken mindfulness of one’s inner thoughts and spoken words without judgement.  Notice the quality of thoughts and words–do they resonate positively or negatively? Just notice without judgement. Then, if they resonate negatively,  reach for a better feeling–the OPPOSITE feeling.  Affirm that –even if the rest  of you wants to revolt against the idea of feeling GOOD.  As they say, “fake it until you make it”–  the more you affirm feeling vital and healthful instead of sick and tired, the more you will gradually move your body and mind into healthfulness, creativity, and vitality.

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3 responses to “The Words We Say Without Thinking, Part II

  1. Wow that first sentence really struck something within me. I never looked at it in that way but many of my own issues are summed up so simply by the way you worded that sentence, “…taught us that being noticed by others is a dangerous thing.”

    Thank you for this post. Positive affirmation and watching closely the words I use is something that I have not implemented yet in my own practice. You have motivated me to begin TODAY. 🙂

    • Thank you so much for reading. It takes a bit of practice, but just like meditation, every little bit helps. Even just tuning in the energetic quality of the words one does say can really be transformative. Peace 🙂

  2. yes, it takes practice but with time, such positive changes can happen…thank goodness… : )

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